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Black History

It is almost that time of year where I, along with others will be celebrating a month for Black History. I am super excited for what this February has to offer! I am usually disappointed about the activities that goes on during this month. There is usually nothing but a bunch of: 'I'm black and I'm proud.' However! This year at my school NPHC, NAACP, and BSL [Black Student League] are teaming up to give Valdosta the biggest black history week!!!! Which, even though it is a week, it definitely is longer than what we usually have. Maybe by next year there will be a month long celebration.
Anyway!! Enough of my rattling, here is the itinerary: [i tried to upload the flyer..Not happening :-/

Monday, January 31, 2011

VSU Black History Week Jump-Off Unity Cookout
Time: 3pm
Location: VSU Font Lawn


Tuesday, February 1, 2011
Black in America: Leadership and Advocacy
Organizational Meet and Greet
Time: 6pm
Location: Bailey Science Center Entry
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Black in America: Leadership and Advocacy Discussion Panel
Time: 7pm
Location: Bailey Science Center Auditorium 1011
Description: Black in America: Leadership and Advocacy Discussion Panel will include chosen VSU students and faculty members who have shown leadership and outstanding service on campus. The panel will be discussing issues about education, culture, diversity on campus, leadership, and opportunity.

Wednesday, February 2, 2011
Shades of Beauty Fashion Show
Time: 7pm
Location: University Center – Magnolia Room

Thursday, February 3, 2011
VSU Black History Week Program
Time: 7pm
Location: Student Union Ballroom
Description: This event will be the biggest event of the week. The program will include entertainment and a guest speaker.


Friday, February 4, 2011
Unity Basketball Tournament
Time: 6pm
Location: Student Recreation Center
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First Friday’s at R&B’s Café
Time: 9pm
Location: R&B’s Café in Downtown Valdosta - 132 North Patterson Street
Description: R&B’s Café has invited VSU students to come out and enjoy great food and live entertainment!


PS! I am uber excited!..like forreal... I guess because I am apart [and active] of NAACP
Tell your friend to tell a friend to tell a friend! :)
Love me,
B!

Speculation

Through much speculation, I have come to the terms that people abuse the phrase: ride or die. There is a difference between ride or die and just being down right dumb! I consider ride or die to be someone who is always there for another person. HOWEVER! You have to know when to let go. Ride or die can be the person is going through hard times and you decide to stick with them [rather it be friendship or relationship]. Knowing that a person is going through personal issues that does not involve you, but giving them sound and truthful advice throughout there tough journey. Being there for a person with they are financially stuck. I don't mind giving someone money, especially if I LOVE them [meaning you can't just be a "good friend"], you have to be someone I have known over the course of atleast 6 years. Even then, some people are suspect when it comes to them always needing money. If I see that I am the only one constintely giving during different "episodes" of your hard time. That is when it is time for me to tighten up because I am playing dumb in that situation. Not a ride or die. Ride or die is doing something that you wouldn't normally do. I do not mean going out of your character either. What I mean is, if I have free time and you need me to do something for you or be somewhere for you, I will do it. I can go on and on and on about the different characteristics for ride or die vs. being dumb, but I won't go to far.
I just believe there is a time where if you feel you are not getting the respect you deserve, pause or end that friendship. A lot of times it is hard to back away from something/someone, especially if you have been there through everything. It makes it hard to quit because in your mind you are like: I've been here this far, might as well continue. NO! Sometimes quitting is winning! You cannot expect to see change if you do not change it yourself. I know it is especially hard when someone has been in a relationship and they still keep contact with there ex. That's when you have to say to yourself, I deserve better! That is when you have to say to yourself, if things haven't changed now, they won't change later. A person's word can only go as far as you can see really. Actions will always get you points. If there are no actions shown, then no longer put up with it! If he/she can't do it then someone else can. And that is not pertaining to sex. It is pertaining to the level of respect someone gives you. Sometimes when you have been in something so long, it is hard to see a spark. Or the person becomes comfortable. Both aren't good. But anyway! Just a few speculations I have had. This is all my thoughts jumbled into this post because I don't know quite how to organize them.
Love me,
B!

Forgive and Forget

I think the term "Forgive and Forget" is just an excuse for someone to be naive again. Seriously, who really forgets a bad memory of someone using them or mistreating them. No one. I find it very easy to forgive people. However, is forgiveness really ever lasting? Especially once you remember what that person did to you. Who is to say that that person wouldn't do it again. As the saying goes: fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me. I have no time to set myself up for someone to use me again. Time is precious and life is valuable. It should only be shared with people worth sharing it with. I know a lot of times it is hard to distinguish who is really there and who is just there. That is what distinction is for though. You have to have an open mind but don't play the fool.
I said all this to say that regardless of what kinda ball life throws you, try not to put yourself in the position where you get used. Because then you have to find it in yourself to forgive that person and then your also left with a negative memory of him/her. Don't regret anything, but play your part and be smart! [a little rhythm going on there. lol]
Love me,
B!

PS: I know my post haven't been "sweet-honeybee" material lately. But hey, hopefully it'll get better! :)

Live

Live for the moment! Despite what others feel or say about you! Do things because you want to do it. Don't be concerned with what others think. Don't be concerned with embarrassing yourself. That emotion last a day, maybe a week at most. Then what? Then you will forget about what made you so embarrassed. Look at it this way, it will make for a good embarrassing story down the road. Yes! Be positive about everything! Yes, others are going to have certain thoughts about you. But whats the point of worrying about what others feel? It only puts you in a state of depression. Who really wants to be depressed? Not I!
Love me,
B!

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Respect

Respect isn't given, it is earned. I believe each person has their set ways, meaning if you do certain things then the respect that person has for you is lost. But God teaches us to forgive. Can you forgive but still have no respect for that person? How many times does it take until you finally put your foot down and say 'enough'. When people say they will do better, do they mean it but quickly retreat back to their old ways. Or do they lie about it? I feel like people 'wake up' at the wrong time. In life, everything is a process but you have to press start or go in order for growth. If you aren't willing to see what needs to change from the inside, then dont tell anybody how you think they should change. You have to have peace within yourself in order to have peace with others. So again, is it just safe to leave a situation/person alone until you see the growth that has taken place? If so, would that person really learn a lesson? Or will they continue to be spoiled by you constantly forgiving them and staying by their side? People cannot be another person's crutch or fall back plan. Everyone should have guidelines on how far something should go. If not, that person will never act like they appreciate or respect you.
Love me,
B!

PS: just a few thoughts I needed to let out

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Good

When you know everything is looking up, it makes you impatient to receive such good things.
But you know when the time is right, it will be well worth the wait.

Responsibilities

So I've been trying to get my parents to understand I need a credit card for the longest. Not necessarily because I want one, but because I need one. You know, to build up credit. Finally! They realize the importance. Being in Valdosta, there is not many places to shop. So I decided to get a Khols credit card. Which is not like me! I really wanted an Old Navy credit card, but my mama knows how much I love them and told me it probably wasn't a good idea. And she's right. But it makes me wonder am I going to become a Khols addict now...I can see it happening too...hmm..oh well.
We'll see how much I blog about them once I get the card. As I get older more responsibilities are coming! I don't know if I should be excited about that or what.

Also..there is an [unofficial] report that facebook is shutting down for good March 15th. What does that mean to me? Nothing! The only thing I would miss are my own pictures, because they are memories. As for everything else that goes on? I dont care! We need to go back to old fashion communication anyway. (coming from a communication major! lol)
Love me,
B!

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Originality

For New Years Eve I attended Watch Night service. The preacher was coming from Romans 12:2.
Do not be conformed into the world, but be transformed bu the renewing of your mind. Proving what is good and acceptable unto God.
When  he read this scripture it was almost like a light bulb hit! Too many times we as humans try to fit in. But we were not made to fit in. We were made to stand out so that others can see how different we really are. The only person we should look to please is God, not your best friend, significant other, or even family. Even though, I do not look for any one's approval, it just opened my eyes to not even care what others have to say about me. As long as what I am doing is pleasing the Lord, then I have nothing else to prove.
The pastor also talked about how people are so quick to WANT to change. But how many times are we quick to say we want change versus actually changing. If you are going to talk the talk, then you must be willing to walk the walk. "Actions speak louder than words." So in order to change what is going to happen to us next, we must change what is happening to us now. His message was change now, for next. I loved that soo much! Because it is almost like we say okay "Ima do better next time." But no, next time is now!
Anyway..just a little food for thought!
Love me,
B!