Saving All My Love For You

Just those words alone make me feel in love with my future husband! ..and it's crazy bc I don't even know him yet. :-)
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Empowering

So today I went to something quite inspiring! To sum it all up! You have what you ask for, which is something I've been blogging about for the longest in various blog post. You have to speak things into existance in order to be successful. A well known blogger: Mattie came to my school to speak to a group of girls. I wish I could just have recorded her that way what she says I will be reminded of at least weekly. Oh well! She spoke on beauty, fashion, and personality [for lack of better words.] She presented numerous staple items one must have in her closet [of course I love shopping so I was taking mental notes!]
Things such as:
The go to jeans! The little back dress! The perfect flat shoes! The perfect blazer! The perfect trench coat! The go to shirt!The perfect black trousers! and lastly, the perfect statement jewelry!

Each different go to item can produce multiple outfits! So wearing them over and over will not make it look like you are wearing the same thing if you change it up! I.E. You can dress up the trousers with a nice top or dress it down [for a night out] with a jean blazer or something of that sort. Something simple can be paired with the staple accessories to make it seem more "glam" than "oh."
Also..something that really stuck out to me: do not be cheap when it comes to shoes! Don't buy shoes that will only last for a season. You must be able to wear them over and over again! So that encourages me to go all out with shoes, don't be cheap!

Jumping back to her inspirational message she gave a list of things to do such as : be inspiring, focused, confident, presentable, original, consistent, prepated, involvved, resilient, and brand. Lastly, become!!!
Anyway..I could blog so much about this but I do not have time.
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Ms New New

So this lovely purse is something i purchased just yesterday at the Old Navy. Yes, as previously blogged. I am addicted to Old Navy!! Hmm...as I digress...
It was around $12-15 cant remember.
I purchased it bc I needed a new brown one. It'a big but it feels like cotton. So it can be dressed up or dressed down. I throw it across my soldier and work it! Lol i really do love it! And although it isn't a clothing item I feel like it's fashionable yet comfortable *_*.
Love love love it! Anyway..I have more to blog about but will do so later considering I don't want every blog from here on out to be on my lovely go-to phone. It's tempting not to blog like I'm txtin. Eek! Anyway
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My answer

In a previous post i talked about how i felt about my position is success. Reading my motivational quotes i found the answer to my thoughts. It goes: Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.

Saying that, no matter where I am in life as long as I'm happy then I'm successful. If I'm not happy then it is definitely time to change things.
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Friend

Friend, always worth the wait.
As faithful as the day you say we are friends!

Love that song!
God really does love as. He is our best friend! And He is so patient with us. I think i need to remember that!
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Experimenting

So in honor of me trying new things and wanting to have my blog at the tips of my fingers...i installed the blog app on to my phone. Plus i get most of my ideas when i'm lying in bed. But by the time i wake up i forget! Anyway..im in class..so holla!
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Can't Stress

You guys! I can't stress enough how important it is to believe in God!
I know I already posted a blog about how all you have to do is ask and you shall receive [as long as it is pleasant in His eyes].
God is so good! Seriously!
If you have faith of a mustard seed [which is extremely small!] then God will provide anything and everything for you!
I just feel it in my spirit as if something great is about to happen to me! I am so excited!
With faith, you must step out on it. The Bible says: without faith nothing is impossible! It also talks about how you must put in your work [that way God will see you are trying] and He will come through with you! [can't quit remember the verse for it].
Just tell God whatever it is on your mind [you must be consistent with it! and firm!] and God will give it to you!
God is so good! If you can't tell then re-evaluate yourself!
Just lay it all out on the table and He will supply your needs!
"There is nothing to hard for my God! Any problems that I have, He is greater than them all!"
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God's gotta blessing!

God's gotta blessing, with your name on it!
God's gotta blessing, with my name on it!

Amen! I totally receive that!  :)
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Hmmph

Right now in life, I need advice!
I want to ask my mama, but part of the reason I haven't is because I do not know what all to say.
And I kinda don't know where I am going right now. Where am I headed?? Is it good? Is it bad? Is it repetitive?

Also, I feel like I don't have that drive to be successful, yet I wanna be successful. It just seems like I don't know how to get there. Am I in the wrong place [school/city wise]? Am I not doing enough?

These are just some of my thoughts that's been running in my head lately. I hate to put my life or thoughts on here [I rarely do] but I guess I just needed to vent a little.
Anyway!
Hope your weekends are epic! Mine probably won't be since I have to work :-/
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Jean Jackets

So before I deleted my So You Dare blog spot, I wrote about how jean jackets are coming back in style. So lately, I've been wearing my jean jacket and one of my friends was talking bout how he didn't like it. I look like a grandma and all that other crap! lol. HOWever [like the boy from My Wife and Kids], lately I've been getting compliments on it!

So I'm like, okay, I know not to listen to him when it comes to fashion advice. If I had I of listened to him then I wouldn't be me! If that makes sense. You gotta wear what you like and be comfortable in, regardless of how you think other people might feel. Somebody will like it!

And I clean my closet out like every summer. This summer I was thinking long and hard about should I keep it or not too! Good thing I did, plus it was a gift from my favorite aunt! A win-win situation! :)

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All you Gotta do is Ask

The Bible says: Ask and you shall receive!

As long as it's holy and righteous unto God, He will supply all your needs.

Don't be scared to ask! He's your heavenly Father! :-)

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Comfortable

"Don't you ever get to comfortable"

This is true, this is true.

It's like an item sitting in the fridge, after awhile it'll began to spoil. And then you would want to throw it out. You wouldn't want anybody to throw you out, now would you? :)

You always gotta keep yourself fresh and up to date.

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Update!

I got good internet bc I'm back from home during fall break.
I went Sat-mid Monday without my phone.
A wk [eh, it was pushing it!].
And I've been wearing different shades of pink nail polish for breast cancer.
Lastly, my hair been on fire this last wk! Pic? Yes [it has so much body like this!]

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Love

"Love does not begin and end the way we seem to think it does. Love is a battle, love is war; love is a growing up."-James Baldwin

I absolutely agree with him. We think love is something that is easy, but it's not. It is work. Like life, you have to work for what you want.
I know I write a lot of post about love or whatever and I know how I talk about how I wanna be in love, but I am happy with where I am at right now. Just thought I would let ya'll know! Love takes a lot of work and personally I am not ready to work for it right now! Which is why I am happy. I'm being a little selfish right now...self-love is the best love.

I am reading Ebony magazine right now and they are making some good points when it comes to Black Love. For one, the say that respect and kindness are foundations for a healthy relationship. As I stress about so much, everything lines up under respect. If you respect me, you know that there are certain things I do not allow. It is a disgrace if anyone doesn't respect you. So why be in a relationship with someone who disrespects you by doing things you disapprove??
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PS: everyone should pick up the November issue of Ebony!
It's there 65th anniversary and on top of that! they are talking bout some deep issues! makes you think...

Now that deserves an Award

For thee longest! I have been wanting to change the design of my blog to how it looks now! Finally! and what is so great about it is this is my first post with the new design!
It is also my 100th post! #winning
LOL
so to celebrate..I must post pics of some hott shoes from Zara
and it goes a lil something like this *beat*

$99

$89

$79.90

$149

$79.90

Now that's something to smile about :-)

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Marriage

I feel like the sanctity of marriage has been blurred. Thank God my parents are still married, but some people's parents aren't [whether they never were or because they are divorced.] And I am not downing that in any kind of way.
Most marriages fail because of lack of control or money.
The first reason I think marriages fail is because the partners are unequally yoked. When the Bible mentions this, it is because it touches on the saved/unsaved marriages. But we can look at it in a general view. Unequally yoked could be just because the minds aren't in the same place.
When you are married, both of the partners must make each other grounded. It's like any relationship, you must compromise but not give in. Both partners need to know what each other likes or need.

I speak so heavily on this because I do want to get married one day, but I refuse to get married more than once and I refuse to have a divorce. I need something that will last. And it just makes me sad to see people cheating on their spouse or getting divorces for reasons that could have been avoided.

*sigh* I just want a perfect marriage. and even though ppl say there is no thing as a perfect relationship. that should not be any one's mindset. Strive for the best.
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7 day Journey

On a quest to not make my cell phone a huge part of my life, I have decided to go a week with it off..
I wanna see how well I can do.
Also, I just feel like in some way my cell phone runs my life. And that is not correct!
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Out of the Mouth the Heart Speaks

I know ppl always say be careful what you say because what you say is what you have.

And this is true, this is true.

If you are slightly sick and you tell someone, you will be fully sick.

So just watch what you say, in any situation.

Don't say your broke bc you will become broke.

Don't say you are lonely because you will definitely feel it.

It's like saying something repeatedly to the point where you will believe it.

I have to learn this myself in many aspects of my life.

Just thought I'd share.

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Renewed

Short Post:
Today I felt so fresh and renewed.
Like a spirit of peace has came over me lately.
But the devil was trying real hard to steal my joy.
I'll admit...he won a little.
I need to listen to some gospel music though to get me back on track from this morning.
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Oh Dear Zara

So it seems as if I have a new favorite store every year!
Last year it was Charlotte Russe.
This year Old Navy.
And soon to be Zara Clothing...
its cheap, but the material is great.

Let me start off by saying last year when I was looking for winter clothes, C. Russe had everything! I loved there clothes/shoes. In fact, those winter clothes of 09 are still some of my favorite pieces. HOWEVER! This year I haven't been wowed! or impressed. either I need to wait a while longer for some new pieces to come out or they just have gone down the drain. Even there shoes look cheap.
So I was browsing Zara online today and let me tell you!
This place makes me wish I had a salary job because this aint no college school girl budget! lol
But I think I am going to have to make sacrifices for the quality pieces they have.

So on that note: Old Navy is still good in my book [they have been since spring 09] and Zara is a new addition to the family! :)

**i think im maturing in my choice of clothing! yay!!**
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Friends. How Many of Us Have Them

So I was reading something [forgive me for not remembering if it was a blog or post]
But it basically questioned who your friends are. And I think it is definitely something to consider.
As respect to yourself, you need to have standards [just as in an important relationship] of who you want to hang around or be around and consider your friends.
When you introduce someone, do you consider him/her as your friend? Yes it is awkward to introduce someone as an associate. But as you know the difference of someone and how they stand in your life, that person needs to know as well.
So basically! I am saying, ask yourself: who are my real friends?
It is a difference between hanging out with someone and genuinely calling someone your true friend.
Just a thought!
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You Can't Steal My Joy

I [smile] because I'm happy.
I [smile] because I'm free.
..I know that He watches me.

Unless someone really really knows me [and it's only a couple who do]
It is very hard to tell when I am sad or down
Because I keep a smile on my face
And I know how to act like I am happy.

I am saying this because regardless of any situation,
You have to look your best [wearing your regular clothes, hair, etc.]
Because the moment you switch something up because of your feelings..
People can tell.

And the devil is out there to steal your joy through somebody else.
So remember: smile even if you don't want to..
It makes it that much harder for someone to decipher your true feelings
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It's the smallest things!

10.10.10
Whoop whoop! :) Hopefully I will receive an abundance of blessings today!

Anyway...we never know what/who we miss until it messes up or it's gone.
Thats how I felt yesterday, but not about a person!
Something as simple as a toilet.
For about a day my apt toilet was stopped up.
Yesterday I decided to flush it..and it did the same thing [the water started to rise]
However, as I proceded to do my nightly routine, I heard the toilet flush by itself.
Automatically I thought of God! Like he performed something as simple as flushing the toilet so that I could be able to use it again! I just consider that such a blessing.
It goes to show as well that you cannot go by the present situation because God's blessings and mercy will outlast that situation.
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Pink for the Cure

Pink for the Cure! I'm wearing my pink nail polish from a previous post all month to represent breast cancer awareness month! Save the tatas'!!!
**Don't my hands look just lovely!?? uh, uh!!**
Secondly,  just wanna mention the tokyo pearl I put on my toes about a month ago! They are still there! this has to be the best nail polish to date! It last forever and it hasn't chipped yet! I wish I knew where to refer it but I got it sooooo long ago, I couldn't remember if I tried,
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Representation of..

A short post of my thoughts:
I feel like when you are in a relationship, whether in love or not, you should remember that your boyfriend/girlfriend is a representation of you.
It's like being in a family. You represent your last name and therefore, only postive things should come from it.
If you do not like the way your significant other is presenting his/herself then consider it an embarassment for you. I am not saying cause confrontation or anything, however, that person needs to be aware that you do not like what they are doing or how they are potraying themselves. Like I said: I feel like your significant other is a representation of you!
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** who am I to say this though, since I'm single and all...just a thought.**

Give your Sorry to Someone Who Cares

I had to work the SAT today, and there is where I finished the For Colored Girls book. I have to say, you really have to pay attention to the book and understand where the women are coming from. If you don't really pay attention to details then the book is not for you.
In particular, I loved this poem and this saying:
::If I could stand not being wanted
when I wanted to be wanted
and I cannot
so
With no further assistance and no guidance from you, Im endin this affiar::
::one thing i dont need
is any more apologies
i got sorry greetin me at my front door
you can keep yrs
i dont know what to do wit em
they dont open doors
or bring the sun back
they dont mae me happy
or get a mornin paper
didnt nobody stop usin my tears to wash cars
cuz a sorry

i am simply tired
of collectin
i didnt know
i was so important toyou'
im gonna haveta throw some away
i cant get to the clothes in my closet
for alla the sorries
i'm gonna tack a sign to my door
leave a message by the phone
'if you called
to say yr sorry
call somebody
else
i dont use em anymore'
i let sorry/didnt meanta/& how cd i know abt that
take a walk down a dark and musty street in brookyln
i'm gonna do exactly what i want to
& i wont be sorry for none of it
letta sorry soothe yr soul/i'm gonna soothe mine

you were always inconsistent
doin somethin & then bein sorry
beatin my heart to death
talkin bout you sorry
well
i will not call
i'm not goin to be nice
i will raise my voice
& scream & holler
&break things & race the engine
&tell all yr secrets bout yrself to yr face
& i will list in detail everyone of my wonderful loves
& their ways
i will play oliver lake
loud
& i wont be sorry for none of it

i loved you on purpose
i was open on purpose
i still crave vulnerability & close talk
& i'm not even sorry bout you bein sorry
you can carry all the guilt & grime ya wanna
just dont give it to me
i cant use another sorry
next time
you should admit
you're mean/low-down/trifllin/ & no count straight
out
steada bein sorry alla the time
enjoy bein yrself

sorry for the lengthy post!! but read it slowly and Im sure you can relate! :)
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Patiently Waiting

I consider myself a very pretty girl. Sometimes my self-esteem can be lowered, but it can quickly be raised back to high. I have been "single" for about 5 months now and even though that is short compared to other people, I can still only help but wonder. During those months, I've had some ppl "holla" at me, but no one who genuinely wants to talk to me. And it's starting to affect me mentally!
Like seriously, why hasn't anybody just genuinely tried to talk to me. I mean we all have those nights were we just want that boo to be with us; we don't wanna go out and whatever else.
But as I was just thinking: it's not my time, or better yet, God's timing is perfect. Meaning, I just need to wait on the Lord.
Me having these "cravings" for wanting a boo or a boyfriend is not healthy on me for when someone actually does want to talk to me because I will be so excited about him coming to me that I wouldn't be focused on what is needed from me or my standards, if that makes sense.
So this is just basically a post with me stating my feelings about the situation.
I really am ready for the love word again but clearly I am not ready. If that makes sense. I need to focus on me and the plans God has set for me and everything else will fall into place.
I know when God says it's time it will be time.
So I guess I am consent with the fact that I probably won't get a boyfriend for a very long time. Just for the simple fact that I feel like I gotta have one.
So for now on, I am going to have a different outlook on the whole thing.
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Women being Degraded by Women

I already did a post on women being degraded by men. Now, it's time to talk about how women look down upon other women. As women, we should have some kind of connection with each other to know that certain things shouldn't be done.
For example: knowingly messing with another woman's man? That is like the cruelest thing I believe a woman can do to herself, to the man, and to the other woman. We all know that if the same thing happened to you it would have you heated in a minute.
Also, talking about women as they walk by. What's up with that?? Like seriously. Is it out of jealousy? I dont care if you don't like the girl for whatever reason may be. I hat gossiping. It's talking about someone just to talk. If you see something is wrong with the girl [weave showing, etc] just politely tell her instead of talking about it.
If you see that a girl is happy with whatever position she is in do not talk about the negative side of it. Just be happy for the girl! Like seriously.
We, as women, beat each other up so much it is no wonder men beat us up [not physically] as well. They have to see that we respect each other before they can fully respect us.
We, as women, should just uplift one another and walk in love.
It's enough hardship being a women, and to have other women scrutinize us is even worse.
I noticed that we don't even dress for ourselves or the men we want. We dress for each other. See who can outdress whoever. It doesn't need to be that way. Be happy with who you are and how you present yourself and then the men will pursue you in a much better way.
I just felt like the topic had to be addressed. I didn't necessarily have much to say about the subject. I just felt like something needed to be said.
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PS: I had my starbucks! But i think I imagined it to be better than how it was. You know how food goes? ;)

Consuming

Let me start off by saying: I hope this will be a short post.
Anyway, a friend of mine emailed me something that really concerned her: how much time girls stress boys.
Really got me thinking over here. Why, as women, do we spend so much time thinking about a guy? We try to get his attention physically, mentally, emotionally, and even spiritually. Guys never think about a girl as much [of course this is my assumption.]
And frankly, I get tired of always thinking about guys. Like I do not think they deserve the time for me to think about them. So why can't I get them out of my head??
Ugh! It frustrates me, really!
I'm gone!
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Starbucks

During my 8:00 class all I could think about was the cream-cheese filled pumpkin muffin and a passion fruit tea from Starbucks. Head over there after class and see the line is as long as my hair! lol but seriously, the line was out the door and I had to get to work at 9:30, mind you class let out after 9:15. So here I am at work, day dreaming about it..*sigh*
I think I should go get it and come back to work..
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For Colored Girls

Tyler Perry is coming out with a movie entitled: For Colored Girls
For some reason I got real excited! Not because it was another T. Perry movie..but because I have heard of the book. So when I hear a movie is coming out, I automatically think: read the book first!
So yeah! Definitely going to cop me a copy of that book. I love reading black books. It gives me a sense of belonging.
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Are Reality Shows Destroying Family

A family needs to be built on solid ground. A child will learn how to treat someone based on how their parents are treating each other. This will be a short post since I do not have much to say.
I saw this little segment on CNN...and my answer is something I believed and have observed since before this segment came out.
My answer: Reality shows destroy families.
In the end, the married couple gets celebrity hungry and so they do things to make themselves bigger. Which, is not what marriage is about.
If you just look at all the families, or even just famous people in general, whose families have been potrayed in the media, they never survive! It always end in a divorce.
I am going to do a post called: For Better or For Worse [stay tuned!]
But hey! This is just my opinion and little observation. Feel free to comment!
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Women being Degraded by Men

I was talking on multiple occassions to different people about how women are being treated. The conclusion of the whole thing was: women let men degrade them. Not just as humans, but as women, we have to set a standard for ourselves and let other people know our standards or else they will continue to disrespect you. So when a man is comming at a woman incorrect, we need to stop them in mid-sentence and say that we do not like the way they are talking to us. I know my supervisor said she doesn't like when men cuss at her or towards her [it does not even have to be about her]. As I thought about it, a lot of men cuss in front of women without a care in the world. But if we really respected ourselves like we should, men would not disrespect us by cussing in front of us.
Acknowledge the fact that men are disrespecting you! Do not laugh it off because the next time they will think it is okay and they will continue to do it. Women need to all have at least a minimum standard that way, men will know I am not aloud to call any woman a ho or a slut because no woman likes that.
My thing is: if it bothers you, let it be known. Do not let anything slide
If women change then men will change.
Also, women cannot walk around ready to be disrespected. Have some dignity about yourself. If you look like you about to go to the club everyday then a man go approach you as if he was at the club. You basically gave him an open invitation to come up to you in a not correct way!
Men! You have to realize women are somebody's daughter, cousin, mother, aunt, or sister. You would not want any man to approach your family member in a way that they feel disrespected, so do not approach any woman that way. Treat every lady like they are somebody's somebody! Ya feel me!
I know if I get approached in the wrong way, Ima treat you like you didn't approach me AT All!!
What happened to the days where men treated women like royality!?? We need to go back to that! Men need to do their part as well as women. Do not chill with a lady unless she is officially your girl and you are 100% committed! That goes for ladies! Do not chill with a man unless he is your man! Otherwise, you just flat out disrespecting yourself! Come on! This is 2010! We all know what chill means!
Men need to go back to calling the lady and having little phone conversations! Asking them out for a date!
Men will only go as far as we let them! They will only disrespect us as far as we let them!
We need to realize that we are women! Men cannot live without us! LOL
So seriously, women, be a Proverbs 31 woman! Be a phenomenial woman! Be some type of respectful woman! Trust me, disrespect is only earned! Just like respect is only earned!
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