Vintage jewelry

I had the privilege to go thru unwanted jewelry my aunt had. I usually do not do vintage/thrift material but made an exception since it came from family. I took home some cute earrings, bracelets, and pins. I wanted some of the necklaces...she wanted those though! :( lol.

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Total Woman Tea: Mind, Body, and Spirit

I attended the 4th annual Total Woman Tea, hosted by the Theta Tau Chapter of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. Every year that I have attended it has been everything and more! The speakers always put life in a great perspective! I thought I would share:
The speaker Ms. Jackie Brewton started off by saying she wanted to be significant, not just successful. It is all about you once you have become successful, or in the road to becoming successful. However, when you start caring about others welfare and others success and making sure other people make it, then you become significant. You are significant in that person's life. You can definitely be both, but if you are successful, why not become significant?
She then began to talk about how women have the power. Not to be nasty, but I know we have all probably heard of "The Power of the P----". It's just like Sampson, a man in the Bible who had strength because of his hair. He wanted this woman [sexually might I add] so much that he willingly told her where his strength lied. Later we find out that his enemies cut off his hair. Talk about sleeping with the enemy. --Back to her point though. We give our power away so quickly to these boys/men by having sex with them. Eventually we are no longer strong, but weak [more so emotionally] because we have let any and everybody in out temple. Our body is the temple and we should treat it as such. No man has the right to not commit and be able to have sex any time he wants to. All because we think that will keep him. Definitely not the case. We, as women, want a commitment but are willing to give the guy what he wants without the proper commitment. Why should we demand respect from a guy when we rarely respect ourselves. We need to know our worth! We need to know our values. The Bible says: {Proverbs 31) "Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies." We are worth more the longer we keep our virtue! It is rare to find a woman who have a low count on sexual partners, and even more rare to find a virgin. However, the more rare we are, the better are price is. In no way am I saying because you have had x amount of partners you are no longer worth it. But why don't we make an effort to become priceless from this day forward?
The speaker gave an example of a 24 y/o virgin who told this man from the start she was not interested in sex until after marriage. The man, also 24, was not a virgin. But because he was looking for his wife, he knew that she was WORTH the wait. He waited 2 years [1 year of dating, one yr of engagement] before he had sex with her..and that was their wedding night. During those two years, he learned patience and discipline. This prepared him for the temptations that would come after they were married...women who prey after men with a ring. But because he was disciplined in those two years, he was able to resist and flea from sexual relations with other girls.
Lastly she talks about the 90 day rule. Who in their right mind knows someone to the T in 90 days? No one! You have to see the good, the bad, and the ugly in someone before you truly know them..and that just is not possible in 90 days. Therefore there is the Relationship Attachment Theory..trust, rely, know, commit, touch. This is a scale where everything should be equal. Touch has to do with sex. You should not be able to commit with someone more than you know them. If you cannot trust that person then why would you rely on them. Everything has to balance out. Sadly, most people have a higher touch than trust or commitment. So we are allowing sex [touch] to be higher than being able to commit with that person.
It was so much that was said and I was soaking it all in!
Bottom line protect yourself! Sexually, mentally, and physically. We, as women have the power! No one should have control over us more than we have of ourselves.

olive Garden

Hey Guys!
*peeks behind curtains*
I'm still here!
About a week ago my mother took me to for lunch at the local Olive Garden! Of course they always have specials and I chose the half Panini with chicken, cheese, and other things. It came with endless soup. The first soup I had was so good! I cannot remember the exact name but I loved it soo much! My mother had the endless soup and salad.
I've been to Olive Garden before but never for lunch and this Douglasville location was a first for me. The ambiance is so relaxing that I was honestly thinking about our lunch date for two days!
I definitely will return. And guess what???!! I had calamari..fried calamari. It was so good! Who would have thought? It was an appetizer and it came with two sauces.

Speaking of dates! ..I've been on a few in the past month. Something I haven't done in forever!
Anyway! I hope you guys can hear from me more! I'm just a senior trying to graduate! Lol and actively involved on campus. But I love my blog and I hate abandoning it.
Love me,
B!

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Troy Davis

James 4:11-12
Do not speak evil against one another, brothers. The one who speaks against a brother or judges his brother speaks evil against the law and judges the law. But if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law but a judge. There is only one lawgiver and judge, he who is able to save and to destroy. But who are you to judge your neighbor?

Rest in Peace Troy Davis. 9.21.2011 11:08

**I was a strong advocate for this man. I worked diligently with NAACP to fight for a fair trial because there was #TooMuchDoubt! I am very sadden about this case because it goes to show that there is no such thing as innocent until proven guilty. May the hearts of those who looked forward to what happen be convicted. I cannot do anything but shake my head at this whole situation. I do not want to get too political about this situation. Therefore, all I have to say is: We have to be a voice for those who cannot speak! Get active in your community and the affairs of your state and government. There will be another Troy Davis situation and because of that we must continue to fight!

Calorie Tracker

In hopes of healthier living, I have a Calorie Tracker App. I've always heard when you record what you eat, you will visually be able to tell what you need to cut out of your diet. And that it works!
For the first two weeks I have had a goal of only eating fried foods a max of 2/3 times a week. I also decided to cut back on my sweets [which I have been doing pretty good on, considering.]
I have been exercising 4x a week, with an exception of last week.
I feel good and I am at a place where I am not exercising for the weight loss but more so for healthier living. If I lose weight, that will be a plus.
Lately, exercising has also been a way for me to escape the outside world. Things get so busy and hectic that it is very easy to get stressed out. I've never been the one to stress, fortunately.
However, I am trying to keep it that way. I can honestly say exercising is helping in that area, which is why I believe it is no longer a struggle to go to the gym.
I'm excited and ready to see results mentally and physically!
Love me,
B!

Blog Better

Hello loves!
Aside from being extremely busy with school, organizations, and work . . . I haven't had any good ideas to write about when it comes to topics! So if you would like my opinion on something or for me to write about a particular thing, be sure to let me know!
I feel so bad because it seems as if I've been neglecting my blog but I just really don't have anything new to write about.
But! . . . I do have a wish list and hopefully it would bring better blogging.
I want a Macbook Air for graduation. . . don't know how I'ma get it.
But I feel with that will come a whole new thing of blogging better!
Well . . . back to writing papers. :/
Love me,
B!

Creative Energy

I have a creative writing class and it's really mind blowing. I feel like by the end of the semester, I can write a book. Lol . . . Well not really but I am definitely getting back in touch with my creative side.... Maybe you guys will be able to read some of my work! . . . So stay tuned!
Love me,
B!

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Someone Is Always Watching

It is important to remain an example for those who look up to you and it is also important to live a life that others will respect you for. I am in no way saying that you have to always fake your actions or words so that others will have nothing bad to say about you. I am saying that you want others to feel like they can always say something positive about you regardless of some mistakes which have been made.
You never know who needs you or who thinks highly of you.
It felt so good last week when an old friend who I have not spoken to in months texted me and asked me to pray for her and her situation. She has told me before she always feels like my prayers are effective and it feels good to know that I am someone others can call on. Prayer is a serious thing and honestly I would not tell just anybody to pray for me because you never know one's intentions. So again, I felt honored and humble when she made that request.
Just live your life according to God's plans and watch how God blesses you because you were a blessing to someone else!
Love me,
B!

Zara Winter Shoes

Elegan Night Out Shoe

The Weekend

Elegant Night Out

 Multi-Purpose Boot

Two-Toned Sling Back, Peep Toe

All Dressed Up

Badd

So Nice, I had to show you twice!

Flat Shoe, For when Your Feet Needs Comfort & Style

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Die from yourself; live for Him.

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Be Encouraged

Sometimes you have to encourage yourself. Sometimes you have to speak victory during the test.
...remember Giants, they do fall. ...Encourage yourself in the Lord.

As I make my way back to Valdosta from Athens on a Sunday morning, I listened to V103. Now honestly, I was not even going to listen to it but my ls/roommate turn the radio on. So I was like okay cool, I guess I will listen to Gospel music for 4 hrs. I didn't want to do it because I was already tired and didn't need "boring" music to make me more tired. However as we were riding, Be Encouraged by Donald Lawrence came on. As I listened to the song, it spoked volumes to me. Now I've heard it before but for some reason I felt in my Spirit that song was for me to hear. So I'm like yes this is it! And honestly, I was even thinking: this will make a good blog post. But as I write this now, it is more than a blog post and how dare I be selfish enough to have thought writing this will make for a good read. Because as I write now, I've realized that it is more of a wake up and get moving call.
For that very moment I knew that I needed to hear that song. I already wasn't going to make it to church because of the trip. So hearing that song did it. I didn't know why I needed to hear that song till this very moment. Once I got back to Valdosta, I checked my email. I've been applying for jobs and wanted an update. However when I checked it, I received bad news. But I thought about it, Be Encouraged.

I figured it was God's way of testing me after I said my couple of words. And immediately became mad at myself for allowing the devil to be able to defeat me. And though I feel like I have failed part of test, I'm determined that I can pass the rest. God wants me to get my feet wet, I'm sure. So like a mother bird who pushes her babies out of the nest, God is teaching me how to fly. I'm happy for the realization, but now I know I must work towards my goal. I feel like I'm finally at a place where I know the purpose of my life (well at least part of it). And it's my time to work (no pun intended). I thank Him for the revelation.
I also am constantly playing the sermon that I heard 2wks ago. Never been to the church where I heard it, so I know that Sunday I was there for a reason. What was it? If the world can get what they want/need then what makes you think that you, God's child, cannot get what you deserve? So I must speak over myself and call things how they should be and not how they are.
Be Blessed and Stay Encouraged,
B!

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PS: I heard the song again watching Sunday's Best & mind you, I never watch Sunday's Best but did because my ls wanted to watch it & was paying me a visit. So I know because of that, what God has for me is for me. I just have to be encouraged.

Start Over--Beyonce

I feel weak, we've been here before
Cuz I feel we keep going back and forth
Maybe it's over, maybe we're through
But I honestly can say
I still love you

Maybe we reached the mountain peak
And there's no more left to climb
And maybe we lost the magic peace
And we're both too blind to find

Let's start over
Let's give love their wings
Let's start over
Stop fighting about the same old thing
Let's start over
We can't let our good love die

Maybe we can start all over
Give love another life

I can see that we're not happy here
So why would we keep pretending that there's nothing there
Maybe you like it, well I don't
And maybe you'll settle, well I won't

Maybe we reached the mountain peak
And there's no more left to climb
And maybe we lost the magic peace
And we're both too blind to find

Let's start over
Let's give love their wings
Let's start over
Stop fighting about the same old thing
Let's start over
We can't let our good love die

Maybe we can start all over
Give love another life

I know that this will hurt you
I know you'll cry
I know I called you selfish but that's a lie
I feel I know what's the best for us

Let's start over!
Let's give love the wings
Let's start over
I'm tired of fighting 'bout the same old thing
Let's start over
We both know that this love won't die

Maybe we can start over
Give love another life



**Beyonce Lyrics are giving me Life! SMH..it's ridiculous..**

BEYONCE "I MISS YOU" (NEW SINGLE)

Lemongrass Day Spa Update

So I just checked my mailbox and I must say that I approve Lemongrass Day Spa! I have not been back yet because of financial reason, but hopefully I will be able to go back within the next two weeks. They sent me a thank you card! That is definitely customer service! The thank you card was hand written by the owner, who also performed my microdermbrasion.
Within the letter:
An advertising magnet
A two-sided lamented coupon for $10 off any hour service and a one free appetizer and/or one glass of wine from Two Friends Cafe' & Market [which is right beside them and I saw it and was like I have to check them out!
And a sample that is suppose to increase firmness around the eyes.

If this isn't customer service at its best then I do not know what is!
This is definitely the type of stuff that makes you want to come back! It's almost like I feel obligated to and I cannot wait!
Love me, B!

Little Quote

I was reading my old, old post and I ran across a quote that I not only live by but it's a quote that I made about 2/3 years ago. [I use to have a thing for making my own quotes..I wonder where my little notebook is with all the quotes I made..]
Anyway..

Everyday is Motivation to do Better.

Living

So many people daily say something along these lines:
Don't waste your life doing nothing.
Live a little.
Live before you die.
Some people are just living to die; some are dying to live.

My point? Everyday people talk about how spontaneous one's life should be. But who is that person to define spontaneous? Who is that person to tell someone else they are not living? Who is ithat person to tell other people that they are boring, and they should live a little? Or better yet: what is "living"?

People's definitions vary. So what may be fun to you, may not necessarily be fun for me.
Who can define your happiness? No one should, except for you.
So what other people define as living, it may not be for you. It may not be your cup of tea. Just as you define your own happiness, define your own way of living.

What is living for me? Exploring. I want to explore the world. And I will. I am so glad I finally know what my definition of living is. Do you?

Silent Comments

Hey loves!
I would just like to say that I read some blogs that I would love to comment on, but when I go to comment..it goes bonkers! It tells me to sign in although I am already signed in and in the end..my comments never go through. And this is on more than one computer/laptop that I have tried. And it makes me sad. :(
So just know that I read posts and even try to comment but can't. Please don't take it as rude or anything else.
Anyways..outtie! <3
Love me,
B!

Belle Ongles

Hey loves!
Be sure to visit my nail page, Belle Ongles.
Haven't been on it like I should, but lately I've been posting!
Love me,
B!

Fixing your Situation

Want to make God laugh? Try telling Him your plans.

God fixes things that you thought you could fix yourself. So while you are busy fixing your situation, God is busing fixing what you are trying to fix so that everything can be fixed. :)

Moral of the story: Let God have for you what is for you. Don't go around making the situation what you want to make it. Instead, pray about it and let Him lead you into the direction that He wants for you.

Love me,
B!

Finding Your Happy Place

Every time my supervisor gets fustrated or stressed..she says one word: Beliz.
Beliz is a place she would love to go once she retires...and is her place of relaxation.
So I say..it's time for me to find a nice, exotic resort where I would love to go to for a get-a-way every time life gets stressful. Once I find it, I will randomly call out the name as she does as a reminder that there will be less stressful times. As a reminder that there is a place to get a way from all the hustle and bustle.
That one word will cheer you up.
Love me,
B!

Up and Coming

So I have to say I am proud of Ashley! After a lot of talking to..she is finally taking blogging seriously! lol. She has the passion, so take a look at her work. She can only go up from here!
Click her for link.

Love me,
B!

The Seventh District

I really love this blog and it is definitely a blog I look up to!
Short post..but every once in awhile a little motivation no Kelly Rowland is needed! So her recent blog entitled: Inspiring Creativity is definitely inspirational! I will not only make a mental note of this post but will also write it down for personal growth!
Click here for link.
Love me,
B!

When the Going Gets Tough

When I think about the "situation" I am going through. I just sit back and think: Some point in life every girl has been where I am at. If they can make it, so can I. I'm not the only one going through it so why should I mope around and play victim. No, because I am a strong, black woman. It's time to live, and no one should stop my happiness. I am the only one who controls my happiness. I declare my happiness, and why might you ask? Because as NeNe from RHOA says: I want my happy back.
That's right..it's all about me.
So..who are you living for?
Love me,
B!

Lemongrass Day Spa

So in efforts to have beautiful skin, I have started a new addiction ritual. I will try to go to the spa once a month. This is so my skin can get the proper care it needs because obviously, I am not doing my job! o.O I don't know! I am just on a quest to better, healthier skin!
I received the Microdermbrasion treatment. In short, this exfoliates my skin to get rid of all the dead skin, dirt, or whatever else needs to be stripped.
Now, I did not go in without doing research on the spa or the treatment. I did research on both so this is like a "healthy" experiment...if that makes sense??? There were great reviews on the spa and I did more research on the procedure than I did the spa.
Microdermbrasion treatments is suppose to reduce the appearance of:

• hyperpigmentation
• blending post
• age spots
• fine lines
• laser areas
• uneven skin tone
• wrinkles
• sun damage
• improving skin texture
• acne scars
• enlarged pores
• scar resurfacing

**Those in bold lettering are my target areas**

Now, you do see results in the first try but it is recommended that you continue going for at least five more treatments. [One of my linesisters said my face did look smoother--but that was after I told her what I did--but I will say my face felt good once I was done]
This cost me $80..which I believe is the average price for this type of treatment.
Now..onto the Spa..
I love it! I would have never known that Valdosta had an uppity side of town, which is where it is located. Once you enter Lemongrass Day Spa, you immediately leave the cares of the world behind you. It is dark inside with soft, relaxing music. The employees are excellent! They carry products that you can buy in order to get maximum results. There is a waiting area like no other! While you are waiting you relax in a nice, big comfy seat that is located in the back-- As to get you ready for your wonderful facial, massage, treatment, shower, or whatever else your heart desires! I will give it a 4/5, only because the type of treatment I received was not a standard spa visit. Meaning, I didn't go in for a regular facial or massage.
I will be going back though! No doubt about it! There website is a little outdated, however. I say that because they moved from one location to another..so there website information is not correct as far as their location and pictures of the outside/inside.
Love me,
B!

Dating Myself

I have been thinking about enjoying myself lately. And as it so vividly states in my blog over and over and over again..I am an advocate of loving yourself [myself]. So I am always looking for new ways to fall in love with myself and be happy without anyone's approval. [If that makes sense.] So I have come up with this wonderful idea of dating myself! Learning about what I like to do, where I like to go, what I enjoy. True, I am 21 years old and you would think everything there is to know about myself I should already know. But what's the use of living if you do not improve and try to grow? Rather it is spiritually, physically, mentally, etc...
So...my bright idea!
I decided that every weekend [or every other weekend], I will get away from all the hustle and bustle in life, slow down, and enjoy MYSELF. Meaning, I will take myself out on dates, rather it is the movies, dinner, stroll downtown, the mall, spa [which I went to Friday! --adored it!! guess I should blog about it, eh?], a weekend get-a-way, or whatever crosses my mind.
I figured, I work hard enough to enjoy a little something something! And I am definitely an introvert! Which means, I love hanging around people, friends, family, or whatever BUT, in order to re-energize, I need my "me time." So I am definitely dating myself!
If I can't date myself, who can? ya know!
Love me,
B!

Summer Book #2

I went to my new favorite store in Valdosta! : The Parable
The book that I purchased was on my summer list and I decided to go ahead and get it since I am addicted to the store. I bought "How to Be Found by the Man You've Been Looking For" by Michelle McKinney Hammond. So far..so good!
It has little pointers throughout the book so that you will not appear "thirsty" as well as things that a woman can apply to her everyday life. It makes sure you are ready to live and love yourself. Because confidence in a woman is beautiful! ..and men do love a beautiful, confident woman!
Even though I have just began the book, I highly recommend it!
Love me,
B!

Poetry Night

Every first and third Thursdays, Fruits of the Garden hosts a poetry night. Fruits of the Garden is a winery downtown Valdosta. Black owned and absolutely fabulous! They even have free wine tastings..which means I will be there on a First Friday to taste a few sips of some wine.
I love white wine but I am trying to acquire a taste for red wines.
They also have items for purchasing
 
Anyway! This is not what the post is about..
I love poetry and a couple of my line sisters are poets themselves. It was great because there was two parts within the night. The first part was "Rated G". The second half was "Rated R," which had cuss words and sexual material in it.
There were a lot of "eye-openers" which is what I love about poetry.
I wish I could explain it to you, but it is one of those things were you have to be there to experience it!
So if you happen to be in Valdosta or the surrounding areas on First and Third Thursdays, come by and experience art. 9pm! :)
Love me, B!

P.S. Their Niagara Wine is the best!!

Finding Me

Every once in awhile I think it is important to sit back and slow down your day. When you are busy, days can get hectic and you forget about the importance of "me". Even if it is 30 minutes, I think some soft music, you, and a room is all that is needed. It helps you feel at peace about your surroundings.
I've enjoyed this 3 hour peacefulness!
Love me,
B!

So good

It just warms my heart to know that so many times we turn our back on God but He's always there with open arms to take us back.
This song brings me to tears every time:

Friend.. There will never be a friend
As dear to me as You.
There will never be another, closer than a brother.

You know all about me, THE GOOD AND THE BAD.
You know when I rise and fall..
You see my beginnings, You there at the end.
And yet You remain, faithful to say I'm Your friend!

Love me,
B!

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Satisfaction

I was reading one of my favorite bloggers and how she just felt like there is something else to always want in the world. When is enough enough? Am I ever going to be completely satisfied with what I have? And to that I say:
"Don't let this world trick you into thinking, you need what its got to be happy. Satisfaction comes from something the world cannot provide."
Love me,
B!

Day One

Today marks the day that I will enjoy leisure reading again! What's first on the list?
One Day My Soul Just Opened Up by Vanzant
Must I say that this book has already caught my attention! And it was the dedication page that did it! Take a look! :
This book is dedicated to Ego,
that part of us that continue to worry,
lives in doubt,
is afraid,
judges other people,
is afraid to trust,
needs proof,
believes only when it is convenient,
fails to follow up,
refuses to practice what it preaches,
needs to be rescued,
wants to be a victim,
beats up on "self,"
needs to be right all of the time, and
continues to hold on to what does not work.
You are now put on a notice that . . .
YOUR DAYS ARE NUMBERED!

Now if that isn't powerfully! Whoo..!
I won't spoil it for those who wants to read! But I thought that was Blog worthy!
Love me, B!

Patience

With a little patience and a little faith! Things will work out how they are suppose to!
I finally got the biggest Blessing I could ask for during this time of my life and if I haven't learned anything else through this process, I learn that God works on His own time!
Love me,
B!

Rihanna - Question Existing

Hello loves! This song pretty much sums up the ever existing question! Who are you living for? You can take this is so many directions. Here is mine:
Live for no one but yourself! As my mother told me just yesterday: You can't be a people pleaser; only please yourself. With that being said, don't worry about what others think! Do what is best for you! This is something I really have a problem with, but from this day forward. I am living to please me!
Love me,
B!

Theta Tau

I would like to thank the seven trailblazing charter members of Theta Tau! On this day, 40 years ago the Triumphant and Thunderous Theta Tau Chapter started the tradition of scholarship, sisterhood, and service! Thank you for all those who have came before me!

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Single and Ready to Mingle

This morning I went to church and my mother encouraged me to attend the Singles Ministry. This is where the pastor directly talks to the young adults about dating and marriage. Today's message was phenomenal! and exactly what I needed to hear. . .
We must be realistic when it comes to dating, especially if we are dating to marry. We all know there is a "honeymoon stage" to every relationship. But once that stage is over with the real work begins. When we first start talking to the other person look for concrete and realistic ideas. And remember!: the proof is in the pudding! If he/she talks a good game don't believe it until they can actually prove it. It is easy to be fooled by good talk, whether we realize it or not! Also, instead of talking about what kind of car, clothes, or other materialistic things a person may have, talk about how clean a person is. It is best to know those things. You don't want to get to far in a relationship and the moment you step inside their house your idea of him/her immediately changes. You don't want to get to far then realize they have a personal hygiene problem. And remember, if you don't have any interest in those you are dating, do not continue to date them. It is a waste of time and some one's feelings can get hurt.
So in short, make sure he/she walks the walk while they talk the talk &&&& be realistic! We all know life aint no fairy tale!
Also..do not be unequally yoke! And this can go for a lot of things. Do not try to make it work when you never were on the same page about things that are most valuable [i.e. religion, family, etc.]
Lastly, know where the seed came from. If you see that the person doesn't treat his mother or father right, what makes you think they will treat you right? If he/she comes from a broken home, will he/she really value the importance of family? If their family doesn't sit right with you, you shouldn't sit right with the one you are dating. Point blank. It's not to say that the person won't see your goal in life, but it will definitely be hard to change the perspective of that person when they grew up seeing something totally different than you.
These things are just a couple of things to marinate on and think about while you are dating! Dating is great, but don't let it waste your time and don't lose sight of your ultimate goal.

P.S.: Don't be vulnerable and quick to believe everything! I'm not saying have trust issues, but investigate and make sure that this person is truthful and honest. Because as my pastor says: devastation is a terrible feeling and it can be the lowest of the low if you allow yourself to get that far. If you are looking to marry, do not marry that person if they have not changed what you have wanted them to change before you say "I Do", because garuntee if they wasn't pleasing you before the ring, they sure won't please you after the ring! Do not let emotions run your relationship! Emotions aren't logical. If you must think, think logical and then add emotions.
Love me,
B!

Who Says No?

Time in time again I see or hear people say these words: If you can't walk in heels, don't wear them.
But why not? ..Everyone who wants to wear fabulous heels should be able to! It just takes a little time and effort! So for those who are discourage because of people's comments or thought: who care's!?!
My suggestion to you is to start off small..then build your heel size and the frequency that you wear them.
For example, wear heels to church on Sunday then gradually wear heels to work or every time you go out. And if your goal is to wear heels every day of the week..well..go for it!
In honor of heels..Here are a few shoes that I like for the summer via Bakers and DSW.

Jessica Simpson..the color says it all! ..and might I personally say: Jessica always comes out with some Badd Shoes! kudos to you Jessica! :)

Now: we all know wedge heels are a girl's best friend in the summer!

I personally love this shoe! I wouldn't mind purchasing these AT ALL!

Basic nude pump! Nude is a must for summer!

Some "church shoes" I would think..but just lovely nonetheless!

Well. Just a few that you girl's can get a look at! I love shoes..now I just need the money to purchase some of these badd boys girls!

Love me,

B!

It's A New Day

..and I'm feeling good!
As I promised myself, this is summer, and it is time to start focusing on me and the things that I enjoy.
I decided I am going to spoil myself with my love. Simply because no one else will.
I purchased my first summer book..I am waiting for it to be shipped.
I'm telling you! I am going to enjoy myself this summer.
The next thing I am going to do is not worry about price tags. If I want it, I will get it!
Of course I am not going to live beyond my means..but I will get what I want! lol. but seriously!
So long, old Bianca. Hello B!
Love me,
B!

Stop Fooling Yourself!

I wish people would understand..you CANNOT predict the future.
People should get tired of getting the "boo boo face" because their predictions fall short!
So..in saying that:
"No man knows the day nor the hour!"
Love me,
B!

May 18, 2011

Today, marks the day that I was born into this world.
..And though I am IN this world, I am not OF this world! :)

I am offically "legal"! I am 21 years old and I thank God that He has allowed me to see this day in my life!
Now..I'm not going to go all "holy" in this post because we all know what being 21 can do for you!

And I want to put a disclaimer out there.. I am a Christian.. and I strive to live the life that Christ wants Christians to live. However, I am young [which is not an excuse] so my life isn't what it should be and I am not where I should be in life. I put on no front for anyone. What I post is what I really feel..but as humans ..it is only natural to slip into temptations. But truth be told, I want to be as close to my Heavenly Father as possible.

So in short, I am saying I am not the poster child for Christianity, but I am learning so if you personally know me and then read my blogs, do not be confused or say that I am a hypocrite-- because I am not! :)
So again:
I am IN this world, not OF this world.
Love me,
B!

Help is On the Way

God Helps Those Who Help Themselves.
"Faith without works is dead."

Pretty much the same concept! ...
So don't be lazy and what you do.

Love me,
B!

My Heart Belongs to DST..

Scholarship

                                                                    '09 Sisterhood  '11

Walking the Godly Path

Proverbs 16:7
7 When a man's ways please the Lord,he makes even his enemies to be at peace with him.

It is important to remember to be repsectful and love even your enemies. Some people weren't raised the right way so to disrespect them gives no justice. If they see that you can still walk in love despite what they have done to you..then they have no choice but to like you and respect you. If your walkin in the way of the Lord..then like another scripture says: your enemies will become your footstool.
Love me,
B!

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Relationships

It's all FUN and GAMES until someone gets hurt.

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Delta Sigma Theta

Hey loves! I'm back..well, sorta!
I crossed the illustrious sorority of Delta Sigma Theta last night!
So I am definitely enjoying that!
Sisterhood is a beautiful thing!
Well..now I have one week left of school so I am buckling down for that!
I will come back after that with exciting posts as well as some of my DST pictures!
But as my prophytes would say: the real work begins NOW!
Love me,
B!

Diary

..and every time I need a reminder how great my life is, I look at my blog!
..and every time I need a reminder that somethings I can live without (merely accessories), I look at my blog!
It's like it's my personal diary.

The Most Happiest

The most happiest people in the world are:
Single Women
Couples
Single Men.
This is what we talked about in class which is so ironic because before i left for class this morning I was just thinking that about men. Women get over men, it may take some time if it was a serious relationship but we know that being happy takes being content with self. If you notice, men always have to have someone. Even if she is just a cut buddy..they never really experience loving themselves before messing with other people's feelings.
Single women are the happiest because a lot of the times when women are single, they are focused on their career. Love && Men takes a back seat.
My question is: why do men feel the need to have somebody? The crazy part about it is, I believe it is unintentional and unrecognizable to the men.
Idk..it was just weird and ironic that the very thing I was thinking about while getting dressed is what we discussed in clas..Hmm..I love my major! <3
Love me,
B!

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Forgiveness and Forgetfulness

Though we learn the cliche: forgive and forget, it is easier said than done. For one, who really forgets the worse things that could possibly have happened to you. So this is a short post reminding you to forgive even if you dont forget. Not forgiving someone is not walking in love. Walking in love is what God wants us to do. Your life will never be peaceful if you are forever holding a grudge. Whatever it is keeping you from walking in peace and righteousness...delete it out your life. Life should be happy and stress free. No need for the extra baggage. Saying that: I will live right from my experiences and I will not think so negatively of people, even those who have betrayed me. Not saying I will be vunerable to those who hurt me..I will just be cautious and count it as a lesson.
Love me,
B!

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M.I.A.

Hey loves! Been kinda busy with school!
Haven't forgot about you guys tho :)
Be back soon!
Love me,
B!

Cheddars

New place in Valdosta.
I love the atmosphere!
From the name, I thought it was like a sports bar type thing, but it's actually nice.
The menu is like Applebees or Chili's [different options--chicken, ribs, seafood, etc].
The prices are competitive...everything is reasonable!
What did I have for my first visit?

I went on a Sunday...so I opted for a Sunday meal!
My friend and I split the chocolate cake...and let me tell you: It is bigger than what the picture looks like! It was literally more than enough for the two of us.
I also had a "real" strawberry lemonade. I just wanted to eat the strawberries by their self it was so good!
I can't wait to go back and try something else!
Love me,
B!

Wisdom

I came across something my mother mailed me around last year a few minutes go and I would like to share it with my readers! :)
Dreams:
Discern who Responds most to you!!!
Dreams only come true with the assistance of others.
I mean come on, let's face it. It's rare someone accomplishes something without someones help. Because of that, it is important to share your dreams with people on a daily basis. [it kind of reminds me of the fact that we should speak things into existence]. While not everyone should know your dreams, a select few people do--which goes back to discern who responds most to you.
Communicating with others about your dreams will only grow the passion that you have for it. Those who know what you are truly passionate about will want to help you.
We must always remember, not everyone you know will be your "friend" so don't waste your energy on friendships that do not energize your life!
Relationships will always change based on your focus and passion!
Don't live in negativity, but listen to unhappy people for ideas. Solutions bring rewards and will create friendships.
Your dream has to be personal and you must give yourself totally to it!
Your dream: will sometimes struggle to receive sunshine
Your dream: will struggle to live
Your dream: will thirst for water among thorns of frustration
When it seems most difficult, that is when you are close to your fulfillment.

Just something to meditate on, get you closer to your dreams and aspirations.
Love me,
B!

2012

I know it is kind of early to talk about 2012...but I'm excited! I will be a college grad in 2012 and I just want something to celebrate. What better way to celebrate then with a "college grad look."
Here's the deal:
New hair.
- short cut
- color change!
Yes! Yes! Yes!
The closest I've been to a hair cut is when I got bangs... -__- I don't even know if that is considered a change??? O.o
I never had a hair color change. My hair is jet black with specks [when you look real hard..and only at the front] of goldish/blonde color.
Anyway..ran across a picture with Monica and this is my Hairsperation!

I like the bang part of the hair. I can't cut my hair that short or else I would go in shock because that is definitely a big change. But the bang I definitely want to keep! I just need to figure out what to do with the rest.
A bob? Shoulder Length? Layers??
As for color...
reddish/brown? honey brown???
I just know I want it to be a shade of brown. It wouldn't be nothing but a rinse. But hey! That's a start..
Just a few hair ideas...
Love me,
B!

Love After Love

Love After Love

The time will come
when, with elation
you will greet yourself arriving
at your own door, in your own mirror
and each will smile at the other's welcome,

and say, sit here. Eat.
You will love again the stranger who was your self.
Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart
to itself, to the stranger who has loved you

all your life, whom you ignored
for another, who knows you by heart.
Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,

the photographs, the desperate notes,
peel your own image from the mirror.
Sit. Feast on your life.

**Derek Walcott**
This poem is all about self love. Get to know yourself.

Summer Dresses

I have been looking at Spring/Summer dresses lately. I have one style of dress that I would love to wear often. It is like a long dress that is cotton [maybe spandex] material. It hugs the body just right. Not too flow and not to fitted.
I have an example: [this example is just to give an idea, I don't necessarily want that scrunched up part]

These dresses are from Modcloth.
And again, these are the type style dresses that I am loving right now. With a little color and/or accessories, these babies are sure fire!
Love me,
B!

B--Flaws&& All

I love God.
I love my family.
No, I really L.O.V.E. My family. They make me smile spontaneously.
I like the number 3, 5, and 7.
I dislike the letter J and G. (Simply Bc of the way it sounds.)
I'm learning to love--myself.
I never have time to do the things I need to do, only the things I want to do. :-/
People consider me a girly girl. But truthfully, I wish I could be more girly.
I'm taken lightly.
I'm quiet.
I love to think and dream.
I want to be married and have a family.
..and I will be!
I can be rude.
I want longer hair.
I have imperfectios. Lots of them.
I love my eyes.
I love my smile.
I love the thought that I know how love feels.
I want to love again. But for now I'm happy where I am.
I don't know what I want to do. I just want to be happy doing it.
I love to shop.
I frequently change what I like/dislike.
My favorite color is green.
My favorite candy is peanut M&Ms--for now.
I go through my own set of trends and fads.
I love sweets.
My favorite restaurant is IHOP.

And because I am these things and more. It is what makes me, me! =)
Love,
B!

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More Summer Plans

So as I stated in my previous blog..I will have a summer where I am reading books. It also hit me that this is my last real summer break. Since I am graduating, the summers after this are going to be different from the summers I am used to. I'm also still stuck on the fact that summer '10 was #epic! I loved every minute of it and I learned so much about my personal relationships with others--or the lack there of. And I have decided that I want a repeat of last summer this summer, except some aspects of it. I will enjoy summer '11! It is going to be all about me! And empowering myself and growing in myself and overall just learning about me! I am definitely looking forward to it! The spirit of being carefree is just lovely!

As I write this blog, I want to encourage everyone to make sure you stop and think about yourself. It is nothing wrong with being selfeshly in love with yourself. Enjoying your time to yourself. Whether or not you are single or in a relationship. Me time is always good. It blocks us from all the noise and outside world. It is time to think and evaluate your life and aspirations. Most importantly, it is time for loving yourself and growing and learning about you!
Love me,
B! =)

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Book Club

So I definitely need to get on my reading skills again! I definitely miss how I had not a care in the world but to finish a book to find out what exactly happened. But in search of loving me, I vow to spend more time reading and indulging in what I like and love and less time on social networking. [expect for blogging of course!]..
Anyway, my summer reading is building up! Because I only plan to have 6 hours of summer classes, I can definitely read. What is on my list of summer reading?
"How to be Found by the Man You've been Look For" -Michelle McKinney Hammond
"One Day My Soul Just Opened Up"-Iyanla Vanzant
"48 Laws of Power"
"The Purpose Driven Life"-Rick Warren

Love me,
B!

Still In Love

..with myself!
It feels so good when you have a warm feeling inside and a voice that says: "I love me."
Sometimes all we need is that little reminder.
I am still growing to love myself and I am enjoying every step of the journey!
Love me,
B!

Beauty

Look at this beauty

Purchased at JCPenny
#winning

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Must Have

When I was younger, I used to always wear a watch. I quickly got out of that habit. However, I would like to relive that habit!
I think it's important to wear a watch. It makes you look more professional and it also shows that you are aware of the time. [the obvious!]
Might as well look fashionable wearing one. Like I am feenin for this one particular style of watch!

I would like the first pictured one because it is all white. I would wear it for like an everyday thing.
The second watch is of course the same style, but I would like a gold one instead of silver. This one would be for when I am dressed up or when I have something on that my all white one wouldn't look right with. I saw an all white one online at Khols..hopefully it is in the store when I drop by there! *crosses fingers*.
Anyway! This is one of many Spring 2011 Must Have Item!
Love me, B!

Alicia Keys - Love Is Blind

I just love this song! I guess because of the beat and tempo off it. Even the words. As of right now the words have no meaning to me. It's just every time I hear this song I have to repeat it. By the way..I am a BIG A.Keys fan.

Fear

All our lives, we set goals. We inspire to be. We strive to be. But some of us never really blossom. Why is this? It is simply because of fear. Fear of the unknown. If we knew exactly how things were gonna go, life would be much simpler. Decisions would be easier. Certain things could be avoided. But we know not the plan God has for us. Though an unseen path may be scary and though we must be hesitant, we have to trust in God to lead and direct our path. Step on faith. Do not be afraid of the things that are in your path. For with prayer, God will prepare you for everything that crosses your path.
Don't be a photocopy of someone, be original. Be you. Dare to be different, but do not be so different that you lose sight of the things promised. Never doubt yourself. For if someone sees that you are questioning your decisions, then they will not be confident in what you can do.
In the end, just do not be scared to do the unthinkable. To be the greatest you can be. To succeed.
Love me,
B!

PS: this wk's black history events have been #epic! I have learned a whole lot. One thing that I learned tonight: before you can love others you must love yourself. How can you offer someone something you dont have. If you dont have love for yourself, you can't give love to others. ::it Was some other great stuff but i just cant remember!

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Searching

The other day I thought: What do I want out of a relationship?
I am not talking about how I expect the man to treat me, but deeper than that.
In life, we should learn from experience. Rather it be good or bad.
As I digress,
I want to grow in my next relationship. Meaning, I want my "other" to teach me how to love myself even more than I already do. I want my "other" to teach me about what this world has to offer. Teach me things that I have been yearning to learn but needed that extra push. Just feel me with knowledge in every aspect of the world. It is always good to lean something new, and what better way to do it then with the one you love?
Growth is good.
Love me,
B!

Beyoncé - Me, Myself And I

Black History

It is almost that time of year where I, along with others will be celebrating a month for Black History. I am super excited for what this February has to offer! I am usually disappointed about the activities that goes on during this month. There is usually nothing but a bunch of: 'I'm black and I'm proud.' However! This year at my school NPHC, NAACP, and BSL [Black Student League] are teaming up to give Valdosta the biggest black history week!!!! Which, even though it is a week, it definitely is longer than what we usually have. Maybe by next year there will be a month long celebration.
Anyway!! Enough of my rattling, here is the itinerary: [i tried to upload the flyer..Not happening :-/

Monday, January 31, 2011

VSU Black History Week Jump-Off Unity Cookout
Time: 3pm
Location: VSU Font Lawn


Tuesday, February 1, 2011
Black in America: Leadership and Advocacy
Organizational Meet and Greet
Time: 6pm
Location: Bailey Science Center Entry
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Black in America: Leadership and Advocacy Discussion Panel
Time: 7pm
Location: Bailey Science Center Auditorium 1011
Description: Black in America: Leadership and Advocacy Discussion Panel will include chosen VSU students and faculty members who have shown leadership and outstanding service on campus. The panel will be discussing issues about education, culture, diversity on campus, leadership, and opportunity.

Wednesday, February 2, 2011
Shades of Beauty Fashion Show
Time: 7pm
Location: University Center – Magnolia Room

Thursday, February 3, 2011
VSU Black History Week Program
Time: 7pm
Location: Student Union Ballroom
Description: This event will be the biggest event of the week. The program will include entertainment and a guest speaker.


Friday, February 4, 2011
Unity Basketball Tournament
Time: 6pm
Location: Student Recreation Center
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First Friday’s at R&B’s Café
Time: 9pm
Location: R&B’s Café in Downtown Valdosta - 132 North Patterson Street
Description: R&B’s Café has invited VSU students to come out and enjoy great food and live entertainment!


PS! I am uber excited!..like forreal... I guess because I am apart [and active] of NAACP
Tell your friend to tell a friend to tell a friend! :)
Love me,
B!

Speculation

Through much speculation, I have come to the terms that people abuse the phrase: ride or die. There is a difference between ride or die and just being down right dumb! I consider ride or die to be someone who is always there for another person. HOWEVER! You have to know when to let go. Ride or die can be the person is going through hard times and you decide to stick with them [rather it be friendship or relationship]. Knowing that a person is going through personal issues that does not involve you, but giving them sound and truthful advice throughout there tough journey. Being there for a person with they are financially stuck. I don't mind giving someone money, especially if I LOVE them [meaning you can't just be a "good friend"], you have to be someone I have known over the course of atleast 6 years. Even then, some people are suspect when it comes to them always needing money. If I see that I am the only one constintely giving during different "episodes" of your hard time. That is when it is time for me to tighten up because I am playing dumb in that situation. Not a ride or die. Ride or die is doing something that you wouldn't normally do. I do not mean going out of your character either. What I mean is, if I have free time and you need me to do something for you or be somewhere for you, I will do it. I can go on and on and on about the different characteristics for ride or die vs. being dumb, but I won't go to far.
I just believe there is a time where if you feel you are not getting the respect you deserve, pause or end that friendship. A lot of times it is hard to back away from something/someone, especially if you have been there through everything. It makes it hard to quit because in your mind you are like: I've been here this far, might as well continue. NO! Sometimes quitting is winning! You cannot expect to see change if you do not change it yourself. I know it is especially hard when someone has been in a relationship and they still keep contact with there ex. That's when you have to say to yourself, I deserve better! That is when you have to say to yourself, if things haven't changed now, they won't change later. A person's word can only go as far as you can see really. Actions will always get you points. If there are no actions shown, then no longer put up with it! If he/she can't do it then someone else can. And that is not pertaining to sex. It is pertaining to the level of respect someone gives you. Sometimes when you have been in something so long, it is hard to see a spark. Or the person becomes comfortable. Both aren't good. But anyway! Just a few speculations I have had. This is all my thoughts jumbled into this post because I don't know quite how to organize them.
Love me,
B!

Forgive and Forget

I think the term "Forgive and Forget" is just an excuse for someone to be naive again. Seriously, who really forgets a bad memory of someone using them or mistreating them. No one. I find it very easy to forgive people. However, is forgiveness really ever lasting? Especially once you remember what that person did to you. Who is to say that that person wouldn't do it again. As the saying goes: fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me. I have no time to set myself up for someone to use me again. Time is precious and life is valuable. It should only be shared with people worth sharing it with. I know a lot of times it is hard to distinguish who is really there and who is just there. That is what distinction is for though. You have to have an open mind but don't play the fool.
I said all this to say that regardless of what kinda ball life throws you, try not to put yourself in the position where you get used. Because then you have to find it in yourself to forgive that person and then your also left with a negative memory of him/her. Don't regret anything, but play your part and be smart! [a little rhythm going on there. lol]
Love me,
B!

PS: I know my post haven't been "sweet-honeybee" material lately. But hey, hopefully it'll get better! :)

Live

Live for the moment! Despite what others feel or say about you! Do things because you want to do it. Don't be concerned with what others think. Don't be concerned with embarrassing yourself. That emotion last a day, maybe a week at most. Then what? Then you will forget about what made you so embarrassed. Look at it this way, it will make for a good embarrassing story down the road. Yes! Be positive about everything! Yes, others are going to have certain thoughts about you. But whats the point of worrying about what others feel? It only puts you in a state of depression. Who really wants to be depressed? Not I!
Love me,
B!

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Respect

Respect isn't given, it is earned. I believe each person has their set ways, meaning if you do certain things then the respect that person has for you is lost. But God teaches us to forgive. Can you forgive but still have no respect for that person? How many times does it take until you finally put your foot down and say 'enough'. When people say they will do better, do they mean it but quickly retreat back to their old ways. Or do they lie about it? I feel like people 'wake up' at the wrong time. In life, everything is a process but you have to press start or go in order for growth. If you aren't willing to see what needs to change from the inside, then dont tell anybody how you think they should change. You have to have peace within yourself in order to have peace with others. So again, is it just safe to leave a situation/person alone until you see the growth that has taken place? If so, would that person really learn a lesson? Or will they continue to be spoiled by you constantly forgiving them and staying by their side? People cannot be another person's crutch or fall back plan. Everyone should have guidelines on how far something should go. If not, that person will never act like they appreciate or respect you.
Love me,
B!

PS: just a few thoughts I needed to let out

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Good

When you know everything is looking up, it makes you impatient to receive such good things.
But you know when the time is right, it will be well worth the wait.

Responsibilities

So I've been trying to get my parents to understand I need a credit card for the longest. Not necessarily because I want one, but because I need one. You know, to build up credit. Finally! They realize the importance. Being in Valdosta, there is not many places to shop. So I decided to get a Khols credit card. Which is not like me! I really wanted an Old Navy credit card, but my mama knows how much I love them and told me it probably wasn't a good idea. And she's right. But it makes me wonder am I going to become a Khols addict now...I can see it happening too...hmm..oh well.
We'll see how much I blog about them once I get the card. As I get older more responsibilities are coming! I don't know if I should be excited about that or what.

Also..there is an [unofficial] report that facebook is shutting down for good March 15th. What does that mean to me? Nothing! The only thing I would miss are my own pictures, because they are memories. As for everything else that goes on? I dont care! We need to go back to old fashion communication anyway. (coming from a communication major! lol)
Love me,
B!

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Originality

For New Years Eve I attended Watch Night service. The preacher was coming from Romans 12:2.
Do not be conformed into the world, but be transformed bu the renewing of your mind. Proving what is good and acceptable unto God.
When  he read this scripture it was almost like a light bulb hit! Too many times we as humans try to fit in. But we were not made to fit in. We were made to stand out so that others can see how different we really are. The only person we should look to please is God, not your best friend, significant other, or even family. Even though, I do not look for any one's approval, it just opened my eyes to not even care what others have to say about me. As long as what I am doing is pleasing the Lord, then I have nothing else to prove.
The pastor also talked about how people are so quick to WANT to change. But how many times are we quick to say we want change versus actually changing. If you are going to talk the talk, then you must be willing to walk the walk. "Actions speak louder than words." So in order to change what is going to happen to us next, we must change what is happening to us now. His message was change now, for next. I loved that soo much! Because it is almost like we say okay "Ima do better next time." But no, next time is now!
Anyway..just a little food for thought!
Love me,
B!