Speculation

Through much speculation, I have come to the terms that people abuse the phrase: ride or die. There is a difference between ride or die and just being down right dumb! I consider ride or die to be someone who is always there for another person. HOWEVER! You have to know when to let go. Ride or die can be the person is going through hard times and you decide to stick with them [rather it be friendship or relationship]. Knowing that a person is going through personal issues that does not involve you, but giving them sound and truthful advice throughout there tough journey. Being there for a person with they are financially stuck. I don't mind giving someone money, especially if I LOVE them [meaning you can't just be a "good friend"], you have to be someone I have known over the course of atleast 6 years. Even then, some people are suspect when it comes to them always needing money. If I see that I am the only one constintely giving during different "episodes" of your hard time. That is when it is time for me to tighten up because I am playing dumb in that situation. Not a ride or die. Ride or die is doing something that you wouldn't normally do. I do not mean going out of your character either. What I mean is, if I have free time and you need me to do something for you or be somewhere for you, I will do it. I can go on and on and on about the different characteristics for ride or die vs. being dumb, but I won't go to far.
I just believe there is a time where if you feel you are not getting the respect you deserve, pause or end that friendship. A lot of times it is hard to back away from something/someone, especially if you have been there through everything. It makes it hard to quit because in your mind you are like: I've been here this far, might as well continue. NO! Sometimes quitting is winning! You cannot expect to see change if you do not change it yourself. I know it is especially hard when someone has been in a relationship and they still keep contact with there ex. That's when you have to say to yourself, I deserve better! That is when you have to say to yourself, if things haven't changed now, they won't change later. A person's word can only go as far as you can see really. Actions will always get you points. If there are no actions shown, then no longer put up with it! If he/she can't do it then someone else can. And that is not pertaining to sex. It is pertaining to the level of respect someone gives you. Sometimes when you have been in something so long, it is hard to see a spark. Or the person becomes comfortable. Both aren't good. But anyway! Just a few speculations I have had. This is all my thoughts jumbled into this post because I don't know quite how to organize them.
Love me,
B!