Chivalry!

Why do people say chivalry is dead?
Is it really dead, or is it sleeping?
I would have to say it is sleeping.
There are still men out there who open doors, let women have their seats, and even pick things up that women have dropped.
At the same time..there are some men who do not do a thing! I think the chivalrous men should teach those who have no clue a few lessons.
It also starts with the women, in two different ways.
For one, what are we raising our sons to be? Do we teach them that they should open the door for us, or do we open the door for ourselves? I know that most men [black men at least] are raised in a single parent home where the mom is the single parent. Are these mothers talking to their sons and teaching them what they should/shouldn't do?
Part 2: are women allowing men to be chivalrous? Are we saying no thank you to things when men tell us that they can do it? Are women too independent?
Perfect example: [and I thought about it when it happened] today at work, I dropped my phone. My case came off of it and everything. However, I was carrying other things in my hands so it was somewhat hard for me to pick it up. A young Caucasian man told me he would pick it up and was even half way near the ground to pick it up. However, I said "it's okay, I got it" and picked it up myself. Now, I am kind of kicking myself in the butt for it, but I should have let him be the man and pick it up like he said he would.
Men probably are thinking: these women these days are so independent and claim they don't need a man to do anything for them and that they can take care of themselves, so what is the point of even trying?
*Deep sigh* As women, that is something that has to be worked on as well!
So in the end, women need to let men do the kind things they do without being so quick to prove that we can do it!
Love me,
B!